The Power of release

What you want will never come from holding on too tightly.

The fastest way to manifest what you truly desire is to be grateful for it before you see it.

Wanting and Waiting

I remember being 33 years old, practically begging God, Source, the Universe, anyone who might be listening, to bring me a boyfriend.

I wanted the “life” I had always pictured: partnership, love, a family.

At the time, I was living in a small house in Florida that was all my own. I was teaching, coaching swimming and CrossFit, surrounded by an amazing group of friends, and truly enjoying life.

But underneath all of it, there was still this deep longing.
And, if I’m honest, a quiet disbelief that it could ever happen for me.

The Shift in Belief

I had dated. I had plenty of guy friends. But I had never been in a real relationship, nothing that lasted more than a month.

I even told my parents, “If it doesn’t happen for me, I’ll be okay.”

I spent more time visualizing a life where I was happy without a partner than allowing myself to believe I could actually have one.

Then, during my life coach training, something changed.

Another coach looked at me and said the words I didn’t know I needed to hear:

“You are worthy of great love.”

I took that in like oxygen.
I borrowed her belief until it became mine.

And not long after, the Universe gave me a chance to practice what I was learning.

The Lesson in Letting Go

At Tampa’s Gasparilla Festival, a wild pirate-themed parade and party, I met a guy. He was fun, charming, and flirting with me in a way that caught me off guard.

When he offered some kind of mints that were definitely NOT Altoids, my friends and I made a quick exit. But here’s what mattered:
For the first time, I didn’t shut down. I didn’t assume the worst. I let myself receive the attention.

That moment cracked something open.

After that, I spent the year dating. I put all my self-work into overcoming my fear of men and learning how to allow love in.

I said yes to invitations. I met people without expectation. Unless I got a “nope” vibe, I stayed curious.

Not every date was magical, trust me, and one turned into a four-month relationship with someone who wasn’t right for me. Jealous, controlling, and constantly drinking, he taught me exactly what I didn’t want.

It took two breakups to finally walk away.
But walking away was an act of release.

The Reward for Surrender

Only a few weeks later, a friend posted about his Orange Theory workout. I messaged him to say hi.

We exchanged a few texts throughout the day, and while on my way home from a conference I had been presenting at, I realized I didn’t want to go out with my girlfriends or stay home alone. So I asked if he wanted to grab a beer.

He said, “How about dinner? My treat.”

Even though I told my mom it was just a friend, it became clear that this wasn’t just dinner… and he wasn’t just a friend.

That night, I had no expectations, no pressure, no attachment to the outcome. I was simply open.

And that openness is what let love in.

I had spent a year releasing control, letting go of the timelines, and believing I was worthy of great love…

Now, I was finally ready to receive it.

When the check came that night, our life together began.

The Truth About Release

Manifestation isn’t about demanding, controlling, or forcing outcomes.
It’s about gratitude, trust, and surrender.

You don’t attract what you chase.
You attract what you allow.

When you release attachment, you create space for what’s truly meant for you.
And when you trust that it’s already done… it is.

And so, I ask you…

Where in your life are you still holding on too tightly?
What could you release today to make space for what’s already yours?